When my husband and I took our baby on a camping trip to Vancouver Island (and our first ever vacation in our 10 years of marriage), we stopped at a little coffee shop (to do work while on vacation…). There was a really cool little bookstore attached to the Steam Punk Cafe. I picked out a couple books for my literacy-addict. One of them was This is Ridiculous. This is Amazing. It’s a hilarious book of lists written by a father about his early experiences in parenthood.
Over the first 7 weeks of caring for my baby girl, I have had several moments of hearing my own words in my head. I heard myself giving the same many pieces of advice that I had told my new moms to myself. I know that the things I ask aren’t always easy and sometimes they sound impossible to my new moms. Though I haven’t come across anything “impossible” yet, I have had a few laughs at the new insights of how I must sound to my patients who are in the thick of it. In the spirit of the amusing lists in Ben’s new book, here is a list of ridiculous sounding things that new moms hear.
- Don’t forget to eat.
- Eat “X”. Really you can fill this one in with any specific eating instructions. Avoid dairy. Increase healthy fats. Eat more protein. They must all sound both obvious and impossible.
- Don’t forget to drink. Hydrate!
- Are you sleeping? (Ha!)
- Nap when the baby naps.
- What do you think about vaccinations?
- Are you co-sleeping? (Really anything to do with sleep.)
- When are you going back to work?
- Is it a boy or a girl?
- What are you doing for exercise?
I’m not saying that I am going to stop saying these things to mom, or that they aren’t legitimate questions. I just see them in a new light. Hopefully, this insight will help me guide moms through this transition with more empathy and understanding.
What “simple” questions do you now find are ridiculous?